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10

Apr

SUBMISSION:

I feel so much better after reading all the blogs and to know that we are in a lot of good company. I am dating my high school sweet heart still even though she has grown much taller than me. I was 14 and she was 13 and we were both the same height at about 5’0 tall. We are now out school and still together and loving each other. She has grown to be almost 5’11 and I barley made it to 5’1. We still like each other.

**Great story!! Send us a pic pretty please!!**

anunidentifiedgalpal said: Hi TGSB! Sending love from Texas. I recently started dating a guy a bit shorter than me (I'm 6' he's 5'9"). Not entirely sure where it's going with us, but he's great and we have loads of fun together. He's never been even the slightest bit weird about our height difference. I actually think he kinda likes it. Boys, you just never know. ;) Keep up the great work on the blog, it is, as always, amazeballs! :D -shawn

Thank you for writing!! I’d love to see pics of you and your man. Thanks for following, don’t stop appreciating what you’ve got :)

Anonymous said: I would just like to thank you for making this blog! I have written in before asking for your advice, and this blog has totally helped me! I am currently dating the boy I talked about in my earlier post and he is SO sweet! I am curvy & 5'5 & he is smaller & 5'3.I am taking him to prom and I am kind of nervous about pictures :/ BUT he is the sweetest guy I have ever met and treats me like a princess. The height still kind of bothers me, but I'm going day to day trying to enjoy the relationship!

Omigod, horrible memories of my prom just came rushing back, gee thanks! lol, jk.

But no really, my prom was awful, my boyfriend at the time DUMPED me *at* prom because… you guessed it, height issues. I decided to wear heels, and was of course, towering over him, and I was pretty thick in high school, so I just felt like a giant. I tried to make it work but I guess my insecurities spilled over, because he got pissed about my complaining, and dumped me right there. Pretty traumatic!

My advice: wear flats if height is an issue, you’ll be much more comfortable than any other girl anyhow! And just enjoy yourself, don’t let any hang ups get you down, it’s your night!

scentofbooksandtea said: Hey! It was so comforting to stumble upon your blog, to see how many other couples face this stupid issue. My boyfriend of 5 years is 3 inches shorter than me. (I'm around 5 8 and he is 5 5). The difference never bothered me, I even wear hills around him (fuck it, I'm young once!!), but sometimes he is insecure because of the stares we get by ignorent people. I think that it's so hard to find someone in this shitty world who actually loves you for you, that these things should not matter.

You are so right, and you have a great attitude about it, thank you for sharing with me. It is stupid, and I’ve said this before, but it’s only “stupid” because of how other people approach the situation. I’ve never understood why people feel the need to comment on anothers relationship. The only thing that makes sense is that they are jealous and/or insecure and want to take the heat off of themselves for a bit. I would try communicating more with him, get him to open up to you about his feelings with the whole thing. Hopefully you can come together on this and create a united front. You’re proud to be with him and he should feel the same!

P.S. have you guys considered that maybe people are staring at you because they know your guy must be super awesome to have bagged such a hot babe???

Anonymous said: Do you have any pictures of you and your fiancé when you were overweight? I bet you werent over weight at all! But my bf and i always thought of as awkward because he is shorter and tiny weight wise and i am taller and pretty over weight. Its torment every day :(

Aw babe! This hurts me so much to read!

No, I was definitely overweight, 5’8” and 218 lbs… but we weren’t together then, so I don’t have any pictures of us together. He and I took a 2 year break, and in that time, I was with my rebound dude, and that’s when I put on all of the weight. But before I gained it all, I still felt like a bohemoth next to him, I’ve always been a thicker girl.

But listen, here’s the real deal, you’re never going to be okay with the size difference until you are comfortable with yourself. It’s time you start learning to love yourself, and appreciating your relationship for what it is, and not what you want it to be… have you read The Secret? It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I think it might help you

Anonymous said: So I'm blonde and 5'4" and this other blonde guy likes me and is gonna ask me out and he's like 5'1" I think. We're both 14.... Is it weird? Like I think people would make fun of me..

People are jerks. You can’t live your entire life only doing things that go along with the norm, how incredibly boring!! I’m not gonna lie, high school is rough, especially when you are trying to find yourself. The best thing you can do for yourself, is just own it. Be you, be happy in your relationship, and don’t for a second, let anyone see that their words might effect you. If they can’t get a rise out of you, they’ll soon tire of it and move on to another target.

Anonymous said: Hello! I've always preferred taller guys (my ex was 6'2") and I'm about 5'5". I've recently been talking to a friend from home who is a quarter inch shorter than I am, and although that's not much of a difference, I've sort of been wishing that he's a few inches taller so that we wouldn't be an awkward short guy-tall girl couple. He's really sweet and I like him a lot, but my best friend always points out the height difference and it makes me feel even more awkward. Help?

I feel like the biggest hindrance in tgsb relationships is OTHER PEOPLE! And it’s pretty ridiculous. Who honestly has the right to comment on someone else’s relationship about something so petty? If your friend is making fun of you, it’s coming from a place of jealousy or inadequacy within themself. I would sit your friend down and be completely honest. Tell them that their words are hurtful and in times like this, you really need their support, and not their criticism. If they don’t back off, it may be time to reevaluate your friendship!

volleyballer16 said: My friend also has a problem and I just don't know what to tell her. Her boyfriend is 5'4 and she is 5'11. I think they are adorable together, but they always get people staring at them out in public,and it makes them both quite uncomfortable(especially her boyfriend 'cause he is already insecure about his height)Any advice I can give to them to help?

I think they need to communicate more and turn their insecurities into something they can share together. Like I said in your last question, they both know what it’s like to feel insecure about their height. Instead of letting it drive a wedge between them, they should use it to bring themselves closer together… and tell her to follow this blog! :)

volleyballer16 said: Hey! I just turned 16 and I am a 6ft girl and supposed to grow a couple more inches. It's already hard to find a guy for most 16 year olds but it's especially hard for me because of my height! Anyways I like this guy who is 5'7 and he is insecure about his height. He is also kinda shy but he flirts with me a little bit. Is there any way to help him get past his insecurity so that he may ask me out despite our height difference? Thanks 😃

I would try to communicate with him on some common ground. You both know what’s it’s like to be judged on your height, which is something neither of you can control. Talk to him as a friend, be confident and compliment him. Show him that being with you will be a fun experience with someone who thinks the world of him, hopefully he’ll come around!

Anonymous said: I'm 6'1 the guy I'm seeing us 5'6-7ish. I'm totally comfortable out and about because we're both pretty good looking. My friends are incessant in pointing out the height difference even when I tell them to back off.

They are jealous, plain and simple. Nobody who is content with themself goes out of their way to break a person down, it’s just not the way it works. Just remember you are fabulous and must be doing something right if people need to try and bring you down to their level… don’t let them!

Anonymous said: hi :) first I'd like to say great blog!!! i love it!! so here's the thing... I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and i LOVE him and he loves me BUT he's a bit shorter than me. I'm like 5"5 (average) and he's like 5"4.5 (again average cuz I'm not sure) and when I'm in total flats it really doesn't show in fact he looks taller o.O but people are are starting to bring me down about it. what should i do? :(

Don’t let them bring you down! How would you feel if his friends were saying the same about you? It’s unfair to treat someone a certain way just because they are short, what a silly thing. Try to remember that people who try to bring you down only do it to make themselves feel better. Appreciate your man for who he is and how he treats you, that’s all that truly matters!

02

Apr

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25

Mar

Vintage tgsb: Sharon Tate and Roman Polanski

Vintage tgsb: Sharon Tate and Roman Polanski

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Sharon Tate and Roman Polanski on stage at the 1968 Acapulco Film Festival

sharonandromanlove:

Sharon Tate and Roman Polanski on stage at the 1968 Acapulco Film Festival

21

Mar

Anonymous said: I'm 5'8 and my boyfriend (of two years!) is 5'6.5. He says it makes him feel like he's dating a model. It doesn't help that he looks really young too (but luckily so do I). One of my friends asked if he was my brother the other day, and it stung. People can be stupid but I've learned to care less and less, because it's hard enough trying to please yourself, why try to please the other billions of people on the planet?

You are so right my dear, because as soon as you change one thing to fit their mold, they find something new to criticize you about. If you just let them know straight up that their negative words won’t effect you, they’ll stop and find a new target. People can be really lame like that :( However, sounds like you are on the right path. Keep your head up and never stop appreciating your boyfriend for who he is!