Anonymous asked: Please help me with this, the insecurity is killing me. I am like 5'6, 5'7 barefoot. I met a girl at a party. I was in the car, she was outside. I noticed her and saw she was taller than the average girl. Got her number, We start texting, she asks how tall are you. In my insecurity I say 5'8, 5'9. She says she is 5'9. I have to wear logger boots and 2 heel lifts to be only a little taller than her. She doesn't seem to mind but I want to make her my girl and I cant find a way to let this be known
……. this makes me sad. You don’t have to be taller than a woman to give her the world. That is not a requirement. What is a requirement is a kind and generous soul, who supports and honors their partner, and is honest. If wearing lifts is something you both decide will make you more comfortable when you go out in public, then that is your own deal… and I can truly understand the initial lie of the height, and not wanting to expose your insecurities just yet. But if you wear the lifts, and hide the truth from her, I don’t see that ending positively in any way. Once she finds out the truth, she’ll be hurt you lied to her, hurt you didn’t trust her enough to tell her the truth, and she’ll probably lose major trust with you. It’s soo not worth it. Plus, by being up front with her, you might find out that she truly doesn’t care and that it’s not even an issue. Furthermore if is super shallow and doesn’t want to date you because of a couple inches, well you are much better off finding out now verses down the road when your feelings have grown!