tall girl. short boy

Anonymous asked: The man in in love with is probably just over an inch or two shorter than me, when we're walking together you cant even tell the difference. But it stands out to me because i am so overweight and he's like a stick, like seriously skinny, just naturally. Thats his build. Because i notice thats he's smaller in every way it makes me feel so self-conscious about wanting to be with him :/ his ex was like 4 ft and the skinniest bitch out i feel so embarrassed, i cant compare with short and skinny :(

Aw babe, yes you can compete. Short and skinny has nothing on loving and appreciative. I’ve been where you are, I’m a thicker girl, and I’ve ALWAYS liked smaller guys. Even in elementary school, all of my “boyfriends” were little guys. You have to learn to love yourself or you’ll never be happy. Even if you were with a guy who was bigger than you, those underlying issues would still be there. Work on finding things about yourself that you love and that your man loves. Focus on those things, and forget the insecurities. Focusing on the negative will only cause you pain, is it really worth it to live that way?

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Over the last ten years I have had relationships with women from 5’10” to 6’1/2” and ALL have worn heels and most have had fractionally taller ex partners who would not let them wear heels!

Celebrate your height, be open about the guys you meet as far as height goes and you might just strike gold :-)

I did - 5’11” and like a model - and for some reason adores me.

**She adores you because you appreciate her for her. Don’t ever stop doing that :) **

Anonymous asked: (Part one) Hii how are you. So Im with this guy. And hes not just shorter than me, but we have a nonexistent physical relationship. But even though I still love him and were getting married.

Anonymous asked: Part two So lately ive been having doubts and the culture I come from I cant get out of this marriage. The problem is I fell in love with another guy. And now idk what to do if you can help or give advice would be awesome Thank you

Yikes! I’m afraid I might be the wrong person to ask about this. I was raised in an environment where I was encouraged to be myself, choose my own religion and my own path in life. It goes against everything I believe in to be stifled by family values, cultural norms and archaic religious views. I would feel guilty telling you how I would handle this situation, because I would seriously be running so fast in the opposite direction.

But the real fact of the matter is only you can decide what is right for your life. Not your family, not your friends, not your significant other. It’s up to you to figure out whether you would be happier going along with what your family wants, or doing what you want. They’ll be upset, I’m sure, but only you can live your life. No one else can live it for you. Best of luck my dear. I know you’ll choose the right path for you

Anonymous asked: Hello!I don't know what it is, but for some reason I've always been attracted to women who were taller than me I tried to deny it for a while but eventually I realized I can't hide the fact that I do I'm 5' 8", so for me I think it will be a bit harder to find that woman who is taller I've done alot to show that I can be a good man to be with I'm in the Marine Corps and am going to college soon I hope to get out there and find that special girl Any suggestions where to start? Awesome blog btw

Any tall ladies looking for a good man? Lol… I will advertise for you :P

I’m not really sure where you could go to meet a great tall woman, but I think if you are happy with yourself and let her come to you, you will find yourself in the right place at the right time to meet an awesome amazon!

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I feel so much better after reading all the blogs and to know that we are in a lot of good company. I am dating my high school sweet heart still even though she has grown much taller than me. I was 14 and she was 13 and we were both the same height at about 5’0 tall. We are now out school and still together and loving each other. She has grown to be almost 5’11 and I barley made it to 5’1. We still like each other.

**Great story!! Send us a pic pretty please!!**

anunidentifiedgalpal asked: Hi TGSB! Sending love from Texas. I recently started dating a guy a bit shorter than me (I'm 6' he's 5'9"). Not entirely sure where it's going with us, but he's great and we have loads of fun together. He's never been even the slightest bit weird about our height difference. I actually think he kinda likes it. Boys, you just never know. ;) Keep up the great work on the blog, it is, as always, amazeballs! :D -shawn

Thank you for writing!! I’d love to see pics of you and your man. Thanks for following, don’t stop appreciating what you’ve got :)

Anonymous asked: I would just like to thank you for making this blog! I have written in before asking for your advice, and this blog has totally helped me! I am currently dating the boy I talked about in my earlier post and he is SO sweet! I am curvy & 5'5 & he is smaller & 5'3.I am taking him to prom and I am kind of nervous about pictures :/ BUT he is the sweetest guy I have ever met and treats me like a princess. The height still kind of bothers me, but I'm going day to day trying to enjoy the relationship!

Omigod, horrible memories of my prom just came rushing back, gee thanks! lol, jk.

But no really, my prom was awful, my boyfriend at the time DUMPED me *at* prom because… you guessed it, height issues. I decided to wear heels, and was of course, towering over him, and I was pretty thick in high school, so I just felt like a giant. I tried to make it work but I guess my insecurities spilled over, because he got pissed about my complaining, and dumped me right there. Pretty traumatic!

My advice: wear flats if height is an issue, you’ll be much more comfortable than any other girl anyhow! And just enjoy yourself, don’t let any hang ups get you down, it’s your night!

scentofbooksandtea asked: Hey! It was so comforting to stumble upon your blog, to see how many other couples face this stupid issue. My boyfriend of 5 years is 3 inches shorter than me. (I'm around 5 8 and he is 5 5). The difference never bothered me, I even wear hills around him (fuck it, I'm young once!!), but sometimes he is insecure because of the stares we get by ignorent people. I think that it's so hard to find someone in this shitty world who actually loves you for you, that these things should not matter.

You are so right, and you have a great attitude about it, thank you for sharing with me. It is stupid, and I’ve said this before, but it’s only “stupid” because of how other people approach the situation. I’ve never understood why people feel the need to comment on anothers relationship. The only thing that makes sense is that they are jealous and/or insecure and want to take the heat off of themselves for a bit. I would try communicating more with him, get him to open up to you about his feelings with the whole thing. Hopefully you can come together on this and create a united front. You’re proud to be with him and he should feel the same!

P.S. have you guys considered that maybe people are staring at you because they know your guy must be super awesome to have bagged such a hot babe???

Anonymous asked: Do you have any pictures of you and your fiancé when you were overweight? I bet you werent over weight at all! But my bf and i always thought of as awkward because he is shorter and tiny weight wise and i am taller and pretty over weight. Its torment every day :(

Aw babe! This hurts me so much to read!

No, I was definitely overweight, 5’8” and 218 lbs… but we weren’t together then, so I don’t have any pictures of us together. He and I took a 2 year break, and in that time, I was with my rebound dude, and that’s when I put on all of the weight. But before I gained it all, I still felt like a bohemoth next to him, I’ve always been a thicker girl.

But listen, here’s the real deal, you’re never going to be okay with the size difference until you are comfortable with yourself. It’s time you start learning to love yourself, and appreciating your relationship for what it is, and not what you want it to be… have you read The Secret? It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I think it might help you

Anonymous asked: So I'm blonde and 5'4" and this other blonde guy likes me and is gonna ask me out and he's like 5'1" I think. We're both 14.... Is it weird? Like I think people would make fun of me..

People are jerks. You can’t live your entire life only doing things that go along with the norm, how incredibly boring!! I’m not gonna lie, high school is rough, especially when you are trying to find yourself. The best thing you can do for yourself, is just own it. Be you, be happy in your relationship, and don’t for a second, let anyone see that their words might effect you. If they can’t get a rise out of you, they’ll soon tire of it and move on to another target.

Anonymous asked: Hello! I've always preferred taller guys (my ex was 6'2") and I'm about 5'5". I've recently been talking to a friend from home who is a quarter inch shorter than I am, and although that's not much of a difference, I've sort of been wishing that he's a few inches taller so that we wouldn't be an awkward short guy-tall girl couple. He's really sweet and I like him a lot, but my best friend always points out the height difference and it makes me feel even more awkward. Help?

I feel like the biggest hindrance in tgsb relationships is OTHER PEOPLE! And it’s pretty ridiculous. Who honestly has the right to comment on someone else’s relationship about something so petty? If your friend is making fun of you, it’s coming from a place of jealousy or inadequacy within themself. I would sit your friend down and be completely honest. Tell them that their words are hurtful and in times like this, you really need their support, and not their criticism. If they don’t back off, it may be time to reevaluate your friendship!

volleyballer16 asked: My friend also has a problem and I just don't know what to tell her. Her boyfriend is 5'4 and she is 5'11. I think they are adorable together, but they always get people staring at them out in public,and it makes them both quite uncomfortable(especially her boyfriend 'cause he is already insecure about his height)Any advice I can give to them to help?

I think they need to communicate more and turn their insecurities into something they can share together. Like I said in your last question, they both know what it’s like to feel insecure about their height. Instead of letting it drive a wedge between them, they should use it to bring themselves closer together… and tell her to follow this blog! :)

volleyballer16 asked: Hey! I just turned 16 and I am a 6ft girl and supposed to grow a couple more inches. It's already hard to find a guy for most 16 year olds but it's especially hard for me because of my height! Anyways I like this guy who is 5'7 and he is insecure about his height. He is also kinda shy but he flirts with me a little bit. Is there any way to help him get past his insecurity so that he may ask me out despite our height difference? Thanks 😃

I would try to communicate with him on some common ground. You both know what’s it’s like to be judged on your height, which is something neither of you can control. Talk to him as a friend, be confident and compliment him. Show him that being with you will be a fun experience with someone who thinks the world of him, hopefully he’ll come around!

Anonymous asked: I'm 6'1 the guy I'm seeing us 5'6-7ish. I'm totally comfortable out and about because we're both pretty good looking. My friends are incessant in pointing out the height difference even when I tell them to back off.

They are jealous, plain and simple. Nobody who is content with themself goes out of their way to break a person down, it’s just not the way it works. Just remember you are fabulous and must be doing something right if people need to try and bring you down to their level… don’t let them!