tall girl. short boy

Anonymous asked: hi :) first I'd like to say great blog!!! i love it!! so here's the thing... I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and i LOVE him and he loves me BUT he's a bit shorter than me. I'm like 5"5 (average) and he's like 5"4.5 (again average cuz I'm not sure) and when I'm in total flats it really doesn't show in fact he looks taller o.O but people are are starting to bring me down about it. what should i do? :(

Don’t let them bring you down! How would you feel if his friends were saying the same about you? It’s unfair to treat someone a certain way just because they are short, what a silly thing. Try to remember that people who try to bring you down only do it to make themselves feel better. Appreciate your man for who he is and how he treats you, that’s all that truly matters!

Anonymous asked: I'm 5'8 and my boyfriend (of two years!) is 5'6.5. He says it makes him feel like he's dating a model. It doesn't help that he looks really young too (but luckily so do I). One of my friends asked if he was my brother the other day, and it stung. People can be stupid but I've learned to care less and less, because it's hard enough trying to please yourself, why try to please the other billions of people on the planet?

You are so right my dear, because as soon as you change one thing to fit their mold, they find something new to criticize you about. If you just let them know straight up that their negative words won’t effect you, they’ll stop and find a new target. People can be really lame like that :( However, sounds like you are on the right path. Keep your head up and never stop appreciating your boyfriend for who he is!

byyyeeklsjcbhj-deactivated20130 asked: I'm 17 and 5'3 my girlfriend of 2 years is 19 and 5'5 I wouldn't trade her for the world. Whenever we are by stairs or a curb she'll lead me over and tell me to stand up on them so I am taller. It gets me every time. She's perfect and makes me feel tall enough. Also a big tip I bought souls for my shoes of amazon that make me 2 inches taller they are comfortable and only around $9 they last a long time too.

Oh you got those inserts!! We’ve been wanting to get my fiance some as well! Glad to hear you like them and they are comfortable enough for a guy to wear!! You two sound adorable! Can you submit some pics??

staybeeyouteafull asked: Ahh your amazing! Im so glad i found this blog. your advice is like my therapy! I wish you and your fiance the best of happiness! Thank You.

<3<3<3 Thank you so much!!!!! You guys all help me out so much, you have no idea!! <3

ithara asked: Thank you for replying :) I think mostly people who don't find their person will be jealous of those who had. For past three years of not being with anyone it made me think no one will embrace me with problems that follow me but he did and he's just perfect and carrying. I don't mind that much, except that I'm not wearing heals anymore xD

Of course! Thank you for sharing! The heels thing is really the hardest part, but he loves you being tall, so I’m sure he loves the way you look in heels, don’t deprive him of that!! :P

Anonymous asked: Hey. I'm really quite tall, the guy i have been seeing is quite a bit shorter than me. People notice it, and say things to is... Which makes it awkward. We are both pretty self conscious about it. I'm worried that height could turn out to be an issue with us.

:’( I can’t stand people putting in their 2 cents when it’s not welcome. You have to understand, those that actually verbalize things like that to you are not happy within themselves. Bringing attention to your “flaws” gives them a moment of reprieve from all the negativity swirling around inside of them. Nobody who is secure with themselves would go out of their way to hurt someone else, it’s just unnecessary. Do you and him talk about these things openly with each other? Communication is key in any relationship, but when there are deep rooted issues like this, it’s imperative that you share with one another. If you lay it all out there, maybe you can come up with a game plan of combating, or ignoring the negativity. Make a game out of brushing it off or have a private gossip session about the demons those people must be hiding. Either way, if you like this guy, you need to strengthen that bond if you want to make it through this. It’s okay to be taller than your man, it really is :)

Anonymous asked: hey i have some trouble of being tall girls. so i'm in love with this guy, he's so adorable and cute. but since i'm likely much 'bigger' than him i'm 6'3 he's 5'6, i want to be his gf or somewhat. but he seems dont understand it, some of his friends said it because of my height, he just afraid of it, he just want to be bestfriend of mine. what should i do?

You can’t force someone to feel a certain way, in fact when you try to do that, you usually end up pushing them in the opposite direction. Instead, you have to make them come to the same conclusion as you, but on their own. I think what you should do is literally forget about trying to impress this guy, and instead, just show him how awesome you are as a person. If he feels the pressure to like you, and he’s already uncomfortable to begin with, it’ll drive him further away. Be his friend, be awesome, talk to other guys, be carefree. If he likes you, he WILL come to you, and if he doesn’t, that’s alright because you’ve already been doing your own thing, and you can find someone who appreciates every inch of you!

Anonymous asked: I'm not a native english speaker, so I do apologaise for any grammatical mistakes. I'm 5,9 and in my opinion I'm not really the shortest guy, however I have experienced a situation where a tall girl would consider me - being to short for her, even that she was only an inch taller than me. I just wish that women would stop portraying short height as some disability ( which is not) and finally saw a man in that other person. Great blog! Gives a lot of hope!

Thanks for writing. One of the great things about this blog for me, is that I get to hear a different perspective from the guys. I can see how hurtful it would be for a woman to reject you based solely on your height. For the most part, that rejection comes from a place of insecurity within her. From birth we are hammered with the notion that women are supposed to be small and dainty, but if you’re not that, it can get extremely uncomfortable, and we as women, tend to be pretty sensitive. I think when someone says these things, it’s not because they are trying to hurt you, but because they themselves are too insecure to intentionally put themselves in a situation where they know they’ll have everyone’s eyes on them, and maybe not in a positive way. It takes confidence to say “No, I will not go along with your ridiculous notions”, and that’s the girl you want anyways, not someone who so consumed with what other people are thinking that they would pass up something great!

Anonymous asked: Hii I love this blogg!! It really helps me sometimes.But i need some advice. Im going to marry this amazing guy in 4 months and im perfectly happy with him. but sometimes his height makes me a little upset. because i cant wear heels around him, i look taller. I really Love wearing heels. I dont know what to do. help?

Thank you for writing, I go through the exact same thing! My advice is just to try and let go of that. Those feelings aren’t doing you any favors. It’s drawing negativity into your life, and as a bride-to-be, that’s the last thing you need. In reality, nobody really cares THAT much about what other people are doing. People by nature are very selfish creatures because they physically cannot step out of their own minds and thoughts. If someone sees you in heels with a shorter man, what does that do to you? Absolutely nothing! Any weirdness or discomfort you feel is within you, meaning you have the power to control it. Be confident, know that those who are staring are admiring you, and that’s all. You have the right to wear what ever the hell you want, my dear!

ithara asked: Okay, so I've been dating this great guy for over 4 months now & even if it's short time period, we never felt like this before so we decided that we're gonna get engaged on our 1 yr anniversary. Some thought that it's crazy for us to feel like this after dating for short time but this guy accepted me for who I am and I've never felt more satisfied as I do now. I'm 5'11 & he's 5'9 & sometimes I feel like people are watching us for cause I'm taller & makes me bit insecure. I wanna forget about it

In reality people are probably just in awe of someone so tall and gorgeous! 2 inches is really not that big of a difference, especially if we are talking about almost 6 ft of woman! I promise you, it is more important to be happy with the person you choose to spend your life with, than to be shorter to him. I mean, it’s almost foolish that we even have to have these discussions, but unfortunately the rest of the world is very close minded. Sometimes I’m really shocked by the amount of negative energy I hear about people receiving. It’s quite sad.

But I would just love to hear that you two embrace each other completely, faults and all, and just celebrate being together. Other people will eventually come around.